If you haven’t heard by now, Hope turned One a few weeks ago (September 22), and it’s been a milestone for us as a church.
1. “Leadership is the art of disappointing people at a rate they can stand.” – John Ortberg
I’ve been in vocational ministry for just about 12 years now, and never before has my leadership (particularly its flaws) been under as intense a microscope as it has been during church planting.
Seriously, the folks at Hope have been super gracious, and I know I’ve disappointed a lot of people (some more than others, unfortunately) – hopefully it continues to be at a rate that people can stand.
2. “In Ministry You’re Going to Disappoint Someone, Try Not to Make it Your Family” – Lynn Hybels
Ah yes, ministry is full of disappointing people, and it’s hardest when the ones we disappoint are our spouses and kids.
I’ve been very mindful of this during this season, and I’ve tried my best not to disappoint Tina and David too much.
We regularly practice Sabbath, and we take frequent trips outside the city as well.* This has really helped us maintain a sane pace in this church planting endeavor.
Obviously, I fail more than I’d like to admit, but it’s good to keep this statement as a compass for us moving forward in church planting and vocational ministry in general.
Feel free to ask Tina how it’s going, and if you ask David, he’ll probably tell you that he wants to watch Nemo.
While you’re at it, register for this conference to help lead from a healthy marriage and inner life.
*The caveat here is that regular Sabbaths and vacations have only been possible because 1) We have an awesome team. Seriously, these folks can easily lead and shepherd without me, and it’s been unbelievable working with a dream team. 2) We have the been blessed with resources to go away. I’m not going to pretend that resources don’t matter when it comes to vacations/development/pulpit-supply for pastors, and I’m a big advocate for pastors being funded.
We can talk more about this but I realize there are many out there who have neither a team nor resources yet, and that’s where networks and denominations like ours can be so helpful.
3. I’m More Mindful of the Question “Should We Do This?” rather than “Can We Do This?”
I think for any entrepreneurial endeavor, it’s easy to dream about endless possibilities without taking into account reality.
In the entrepreneurial endeavor of church planting, I think it’s easy to dream about endless possibilities without the very fuel that runs it all – the Spirit.
This is where prayer is so important… specifically, the following prayer:
“Your Will Be Done, Your Kingdom Come.”
4. In Any Missional Church, a Balance of Risk and Safety is Needed.
If there’s too much risk, then people get burned out, community and quality suffers, etc.
If there’s too much safety then there’s little movement and vitality, and an insulated culture is created.
I believe Jesus modeled this for us, too, but that’s worth another blog post.
Hopefully we continually find ourselves between these two extremes.
5. As Somewhat of a Careful Planner, I’m Consistently Surprised By How Things Turn Out Differently Than I Envisioned, and Yet Sorta Similar.
This definitely reminds me Who’s in Control.
5. I Was Made For This.
I can’t believe I get to do this. It’s such an honor to exercise faith in this way!
I recall all my fears about church planting, and I realize I wouldn’t trade this experience for anything.
As a result, I am so unbelievably thankful to everyone who’s supported us on this journey. It’s been such a thrilling ride, and despite going through some of the hardest times of my life, it’s been so reassuring seeing how God has orchestrated it all.